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missvoltairine:

things we are trying to do all the time:

1. be safe

things we can’t help but do all the time:

1. second-guess ourselves
2. behave impulsively and reactively
3. take everything personally
4. worry
5. worry
6. worry
7. have difficulty accepting compliments
8. have difficulty reciprocating friendly gestures
9. have difficulty finding the courage to respond
10. have difficulty not being suspicious of others’ intentions
11. make a huge deal out of the smallest thing

things you should keep in mind:

1. we’re scared of everything
2. pretty much all of the time
3. it’s an actual disorder
4. it manifests as impulsive behavior
5. you can’t fix us with words
6. telling us “worrying is silly” won’t make us stop worrying
7. it’ll only make us feel silly
8. and then we’ll worry even more
9. “oh god, am i worrying too much? what if they call me silly again?”
10. like that
11. also, we wear a lot of armor
12. cold, heavy, affection-proof armor with spikes
13. we constructed this armor as children
14. we’re fairly certain you will never be able to pry it apart
15. but there is a nice person under there, we promise

things you can do for a friend with an anxiety disorder:

1. stick around
2. ask them if they’re comfortable in a place or situation
3. be willing to change the place or situation if not
4. activities that help them take their mind off of things are good!
5. talk to them even when they might not talk back
6. (they’re probably too afraid to say the wrong thing)
7. try not to take their reactions (or lack thereof) personally
8. (the way they expresses themself is distorted and bent because of their constant fear)
9. (and they know this)
10. give them time to respond to you
11. they will obsess over how they are being interpreted
12. they will anticipate being judged
13. it took me four hours just to type this much
14. even though i sound casual
15. that’s because i have an anxiety disorder

things you shouldn’t do:

1. tell us not to worry
2. tell us we’ll be fine
3. mistake praise for comfort
4. ask us if we are “getting help”
5. force us to be social
6. force us to do things that trigger us
7. “face your fears” doesn’t always work
8. because—remember—scared of everything
9. in fact, it would be more accurate to say we are scared of the fear itself

emergency action procedure for panic attacks:

1. be calm
2. be patient
3. don’t be condescending
4. remind us that we’re not “crazy”
5. sit with us
6. ask us to tighten and relax our muscles one by one
7. remind us that we are breathing
8. engage us in a discussion (if we can talk, then we can breathe)
9. if we are having trouble breathing, try getting us to exhale slowly
10. or breathe through our nose
11. or have us put our hands on our stomach to feel each breath
12. ask us what needs to change in our environment in order for us to feel safe
13. help us change it
14. usually, just knowing that we have someone on our side willing to fight our scary monsters with us is enough to calm us down

if you have an anxiety disorder:

1. it’s okay.
2. even if you worry that it’s not okay.
3. it’s still okay. it’s okay to be scared. it’s okay to be scared of being scared.
4. you are not crazy. you are not a freak.
5. i know there’s a person under all that armor.
6. and i know you feel isolated because of it.
7. i won’t make you take it off.
8. but know that you are not alone.

Bless this post. These are all the right things to do for an anxious person (like myself).

I can’t tell you how many times someone has accidentally (or purposefully) crossed one of these boundaries (probably thinking they could “fix” me) and just made everything awful.

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Thanks :) 

You’re right, and honestly anon you might think your parents will be mad, I thought mine would be, but they should just want the best for you I’m sure :)

I finished first year and started second year but I am retaking second year because I left half way through. Well we talked it through and they just wanted me to do what would be the best for me. I get what you mean I feel that sometimes like people will be disappointed if I don’t do well. I doubt she will be disappointed in you, she just wants the best for you and for you to do well I’m sure :)

I could use some help though. I’m looking to buy an ereader and wanted the Kindle Fire but it’s not available in the UK yet, so does anyone know of any good alternatives like that? I’ve seen the Kobo Vox but don’t really know how good it is…

Can anyone help me out?　

I have a massive bandage on my toe now because I’ve just had to go have a minor toenail operation.

The bandage is fucking huge. Seriously.

And now I can’t go and see my friends because I have to rest for 3-5 days.

Great. Just great.

Aww thank you 

I don’t think so myself but thank you :)

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pr0-mise:

i should really listen to this

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So I went to the doctor’s this morning and everything was fine. But she mentioned something to me checked it out and was like it’s fine don’t worry. Everything seems fine.

But now I’m sitting here worrying about that thing she mentioned thinking what if it’s not fine? 

EVEN THOUGH SHE SAID IT’S FINE. NOTHING BAD.

The fuck? Seriously. 

Even when I go to the doctor’s and get reassurance I can’t shake my anxiety.

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